I am initially reticent to say this, but the big and unfair condemnations and insults showered on the couples, @junaidu2011 and @fareeluv makes it paramount for someone to come out and tell the world the truth about what actually happened, and nothing but the truth.
Even as a professional journalist, I am naturally a person who minds his business. That is why it was a little bit difficult for me to come out and tell the world what should be told about this interesting love triangle. People believe what they see and hear, and as much as we all know there are always many sides to a story, people just believe the loud side even if it’s full of falsehood. It is therefore as an act of ethical submission, I am doing this.
I have known Junaidu for close to a decade, I have worked closely with him – he is a media person for a governor and I am a gatekeeper for a newspaper. He is a man of honour, integrity, very principled and disciplined. I am sure it was why Ayeesha wanted to spend the rest of her life with him. Every woman will want Junaidu, he is a perfect gentleman.
Like it is with contemporary girls, Ayeesha reached Junaidu through a social network during one of his foreign trips. She saw his picture abroad and she sent him a DM. The two got talking and a progressive acquaintance was established. What started like a fling turned into a serious relationship and marriage was discussed. I was one of the very few people Junaidu called to inform about his intention to marry Ayeesha, I prayed for him and wished him well.
To say Junaidu sacrificed so much to make his relationship with Ayeesha worked is an understatement. He was faced with lots of objection and outcry from colleagues, family and friends because of her religious background, tribe, and most of all, her social life. But the man stood firm on his position to make her his wife and that was her mistake, she took all that for granted.
As a potential husband, Junaidu has done so much for Ayeesha and her family and whether she admits it or not, she will never get to find a man that will cater for her mentally, financially, socially and otherwise. The man just barely laid down his life for her and her family, and he was happy and excited doing it. He changed her life and dragged her into 21st century comfort. All that didn’t stop Ayeesha from being the unfaithful girlfriend she is cut out to be.
During their early courtship days, there were big questions about her social life and male acquaintances, which Junaid propelled aside and continued his plans to make her his life partner. What started as a mere rumour became an established fact, when he became observant and kept a surveillance on her movement. About a dozen times, he had caught her red handed at places, no marriage thinking lady should be.
In Kano, where she schools, Junaidu being a public figure heard about the wayward social lifestyle of Ayeesha. And all he asked her was to adhere to the islamic ‘istibira’i’ days before their marriage and that was where the problem started. During these days, Ayeesha was seen severally on ungodly hours at ungodly places with male friends.
I was an eye witness to such circumstance, Junaidu used my car to trace Ayeesha to an ungodly place where she had spent the night and it became the last straw the broke the camel’s back. She went on her kneels and begged him, and I also begged him and made him understand that marrying Ayeesha is a big islamic obligation now and Allah will reward him abundantly for that.
Reluctantly, he agreed and she was made to understand that this is her last chance. she became the good girl we all want her to be but after a few days, Ayeesha went back to her old ways, clubbing and going to ungodly places at ungodly hours, and then having the effrontery to post such ill-mannered escapades on snapchat. It is at that point that it became vividly clear to Junaidu that marriage isn’t what she rally wanted – she is in Islam for business not for salvation.
Instead of asking for another chance, Ayeesha for reasons best known to her became hostile. She started sending him offensive texts, telling him to grow up and stop following her around, and that marriage is not madness. At that point, I would have told my friend to leave her and go get a decent wife to marry, but I didn’t do that. I pleaded with him to forgive her and remember that he is doing this for Allah.
It was at this point that Junaidu, traveled abroad again, instead of accepting reality and facing it, Ayeesha continued her wayward life and at that junction, we all realised that, Ayeesha has no plans of settling down. We just decided its only fair for Junaidu to continue his search for a wife as the man is no longer getting young. And the small distance between them grew big and the relationship turned completely sour.
It may interest anyone reading this piece to know that, Junaidu was never close to Ayeesha’s friends, she doesn’t like him close to her friends and he understood that. He knew nothing about her friendship with @fareeluv, Fareeda, when he met her, it was much later that he realised that they were friends. Is he now expected to cancel his marriage plans because his bride knew his ex?
OC has a gem of a man in her hands in Junaidu and she played dirty with him and an appreciative bride came along, and when she realised what she had loss, she resorted to deceits, lies and blackmails on social media and people who don’t know the truth are passing harsh judgement on the couple. This is so so unfair.
I think OC should just accept her fate and change her ways, if she is really the good girl she delineated, a good man will come. For now, I think we should all say good or keep quite about this couple. None of them has done anything wrong. We should also remember that, every man will pay for the bad things he says about others – if not before man, then before Allah.
Meanwhile, I wish you a happy married life, Junaidu and Fareeda.
Mamoud wrote this from Dan Bare Kano BUK new site.
